Navigating the holiday table can be challenging! With the right strategies in your pocket you can embrace the festivities and stay committed to your recovery. Here are some practical strategies that you can use to keep your time with family at the holiday table enjoyable:
Before the day
Plan Ahead: Think about potential triggers and plan your responses. Practice what you’ll say if someone offers you a drink or asks uncomfortable questions. Having a plan can help you feel more in control. Redirecting uncomfortable questions can be an art, but with a few strategies, you can handle them gracefully:
- Answer Briefly and Redirect: Give a short, polite answer and then ask them a question. For example, “I’m doing well, thanks for asking. How about you? How’s work going?”
- Be Honest: Sometimes, honesty is the best policy. You can simply say, “I’m not comfortable discussing that. Can we talk about something else?”
- Express Discomfort: Politely let them know that you’re not comfortable discussing the topic. For example, “I’d rather not talk about that right now. How about we discuss something else?”
- Use Humor: Lighten the mood with a joke or a humorous comment. For instance, if someone asks a personal question, you might respond with, “If I told you, I’d have to make you sign a non-disclosure agreement!”
- Change the Subject: Shift the conversation to a different topic. For example, if someone asks about your recovery, you could say, “Oh, that reminds me, have you seen the latest movie that just came out?”
Focus on Self-Care: Make sure to take care of yourself before and after the meal. Engage in activities that help you relax and recharge, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time in nature.
Stay Connected to Your Support System: Keep in touch with your sponsor, attend meetings, and stay connected with your recovery community. This support can be invaluable during the holidays.
On the day
Celebrate Your Progress: Take time to acknowledge and celebrate your achievements in recovery. Remind yourself of how far you’ve come and the positive changes you’ve made in your life.
Bring a Supportive Friend/Partner: If possible, bring someone who understands your recovery journey and can provide support. Having an ally at the table can make a big difference.
Bring Your Own Beverage: If you’re worried about being offered alcohol, bring your own non-alcoholic drink. This way, you can avoid any awkward situations and stay in control.
Engage in Sober Activities: Suggest or participate in activities that don’t involve alcohol or drugs. This could be playing games, watching movies, or going for a walk.
Practice Mindfulness: Stay present and focused on the moment. Mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, can help you stay calm and centered.
Have an Exit Plan: Always have a way to leave if things get too overwhelming. This could mean having your own transportation or arranging for a friend to pick you up.
Remember, the holidays are about celebrating and enjoying time with loved ones, and you deserve to do so in a way that supports your well-being. You can protect your recovery, enjoy time with family and make the most of the holiday season.
