The 10th Anniversary edition of “If You Loved Me You’d Stop!: What You Really Need…

I used to think that my critical brain (not to be confused with critical thinking…

  My Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings end with members stating an Affirmation. We began by using the list on page 329 of the Big Red Book. Those affirmations all begin with “It is okay.” Some examples are “It is okay to know another way to live.” “It is okay to say no without feeling

  many, Many moons ago stood a forest- Dark & Dense. within the Tall & Looming trees, wandered the Keeper of Loneliness.   among Countless ill-lit paths alongside many menacing streams the Keeper spun & spun in circles, hopelessly searching for Lost Dreams.   one by one- the branches broke. the leaves danced to the

    Pain is mandatory, but misery is optional. – some smartass Some days you’re the coyote, and some days you’re the cliff. Everybody runs into one of those days eventually, when problems pile up like an awkward balancing act in a Dr. Seuss story gone terribly wrong. My problem-solving skills used to come in a

I’d like us to think about that concept for a moment and consider what it means. We so often that we much push for what we want, work harder and faster, put all our effort into out goals until we have nothing left to give. But is that really the best way to achieve what

I have not felt as if I had any connection with my ancestors; but it turns out that I do. Not in the “descended from royalty” kind, or the “long line of heroes” type, but the “inherited a poor resilience structure” kind. I do have a history, and it is painful. After several years in

As a young woman I never saw myself as an addict or a broken person. I smugly believed that since I hadn’t been arrested, hospitalized, medicated or forced to undergo EST, and I didn’t take alcohol or drugs, that I had narrowly escaped what seemed to grip my entire family of origin in one way

Addiction and dependence have many definitions. There are many different opinions and many heated arguments around the subject. For me there is no one clear definition for each person regarding their dependence or addiction. Humans are too complicated and their circumstances too individual to stick a generic prescription on what looks like a similar dis-ease.

If I had a voice I’d tell the world about You I’d tell them you opened up my heart like a scarred-over wound that never really healed like an emerging flower poking its way into the ether   If I had a voice I’d tell them the truth about Your spirit that You’re the essence