my daily reflections…

my recovery has taught me that anothers opinion of me is none of my business. i have learned that the only person i can truly change is myself. understandin these two ideas mean that i have no right to judge another in front of others. for me, when someone does this toward me, i get pissed immediately, and tend to let my mouth start writin checks i cannot cash. with this reality discovered through personal inventory, i get the opportunity to keep a focus on myself, usin the wisdom i have gained to look within and make changes that benefit me and may another. i aint perfect man, and for me to expect any other to be perfect only sets myself up for unrealistic expectation no matter how golden i think my intentions are. to speak of another behind their back with someone else only succeeds in pumpin my own ego with selfish motives. this does not mean i cannot judge for myself if what another may be doin is or isnt right or wrong for me to try, because i must be open-minded to try other methods to exercise my recovery. and as i said, to do this in such a manner that i talk down of another with someone, only serves to harm the other and myself. perseverance asks me to grow in healthy manners, not remain stuck in my emotional, psychological, or spiritual malady. today i want to explore my strengths, not remain held back by my weaknesses. when i identify and let go of my character defects i make room for my character strengths to flourish. why not try to be helpful to myself or another? learnin how to love myself opens the door for learnin to love others. remainin gentle, lovin, and nurturin with others is an appropriate action, that changes my behavior and my thinkin. ive learned through recovery that people who truly love themselves do not become destructively self-centered. people who love themselves well, learn to love others well too. today i examine my standards for success and happiness within by keepin my mouth shut when the urge to downplay or talk down to another presses me. prayin for another, and myself, when these impulses come to me allows me to give my emotions up to my HP so i may work toward learnin how to better myself. the more i experience the joy of findin my new and improved self, the more i get to pass on encouragin action, behavior, and thinkin to another in an effort to build rather than destroy. 1 day @ a time...